In order to fully understand what’s happening when you ejaculate, and why you ejaculate quickly, you need to understand what’s known as “the male sexual response cycle”.
The male sexual response explains what’s going on from initial excitement to orgasm,
Legendary sex therapists, Masters and Johnson, broke the male sexual response into four phases:
In the excitement phase breathing deepens and erection begins.
Then, the plateau stage follows. Erection becomes full and you feel highly aroused. This is where penetration usually starts.
When arousal builds to a certain point, it triggers the ejaculation reflex which marks the orgasm phase. You ejaculate and experience the sensation we call an orgasm.
After orgasm comes the resolution phase in which breathing returns to normal and erection subsides.
Now, here’s why it’s important to be familiar with these phases…
The key to lasting longer in bed
The key to controling your ejaculation and lasting longer is to extend the plateau phase.
In other words, you need to be able to be highly aroused without triggering the ejaculation reflex, without reaching an orgasm and ejaculating.
Rate your sexual excitement on a scale of 1 to 10. One being the begining of erection, 10 being the orgasm. The key is keeping yourself at 7, maybe 8 until you choose to ejaculate.
Take a look at the following diagrams that illustrate the difference between sexual responses of man with PE and man with normal ejaculation control.
The reason why a man with premature ejaculation comes quickly is because he crashes through the plateau phase straight into an orgasm.
On the other hand…
The man with normal ejaculation control keeps the level of his excitement high during the plateau phase, but not too high to trigger the ejaculation reflex.
In the example on the following diagram, he enjoys the prolonged penetration time for about 11 minutes before he reaches an orgasm.
The point of no return
When your arousal reaches its peak, shortly before the orgasm, you reach the point where the ejaculation reflex is triggered, and you can no longer hold it back. You ejaculate.
That point of arousal, at which ejaculation becomes inevitable, is known as the point of ejaculatory inevitability or the “point of no return”.
If you want to last longer, you need to learn to recognize your own point of ejaculatory inevitability. So that you can stop yourself before you trigger the ejaculation reflex.
The trick is to slow down and become familiar with sensations you experience when you’re highly aroused.
Learning to recognize these sensations will help you to pinpoint your point of no return, and slow down before you trigger the orgasm.
Let’s take a closer look at what’s going on during your orgasm…
Your orgasm consists of two these two phases:
Emission means squeezing the semen out of its storage place in the seminal vesicles (small sacs that hold semen) and putting it into a little reservoir at the base of the penis.
Now that the semen is ready to be ejected you feel a certain inner sensation that the “gun is loaded” and the discharge has been triggered, and you can no longer hold it back.
This sensation is your point of ejaculatory inevitability. And you need to learn to recognize it.
A split second after the emission, ejaculation phase follows.
The sensation that comes with ejaculation is what we call an orgasm. It ranges form a simple sense of release to the most pleasurable of human experiences.
You should be aware that it is possible to ejaculate without having an orgasm and vice versa… have an orgasm without ejaculating.
Ejaculation is produced by spasms of muscles at the base of your penis. The spasms occur at a rate a bit faster than one per second.
These contractions eject 1 to 5 gobs of semen out of the tip of your penis. The average discharge of semen, called ejaculate, contains approximately 300 million sperms (male reproductive cells).