My Premature Ejaculation Story: Regular Joe With PE

My Premature Ejaculation Story: Regular Joe With PE

This is a story I found on Urology Channel. They encourage people to help others by sharing their stories.

And I think that’s a great way to help other guys who are stuck with premature ejaculation. At least you know your not alone, and sometimes that means a lot.

Here’s the story…

by: regular joe with PE on Mon, Jan 28 2008


Need help and need to be told…

31 Asian male, 5’11”, 150 lbs. Normal health condition (had physical last month, Dr. said I was a healthy man, and I needed to quit smoking)

Brought up with very strong anti-sex before marriage morals (very conservative culture). If it’s told million times, it does affect your brain. Anyways, I was a virgin till 26. With no social or sex related skills. Had sex with prostitute (safe sex with condom). It lasted less than a minute. Felt very guilty.

Anyways, got hooked to them spas that offered other treatments – sex to be clear. Used that services for few years. Finally got married @ age of 27-28.

Wife was conservative also. Virgin on our first night. Consensual arranged marriage (no sex before marriage thing).

Here I am. Almost 32, with 2 kids, and still struggling with my sex life.

I remember growing up…

@ 15 I really had to stimulate my penis to get fluids out — clear white fluid – pre cum if you will.

@ 16 Started getting sperm (white stuff with clear fluid).


My penis is very sensitive. Hyper-sensitive if you will. Just thought of beautiful naked women will arouse me and get me hard, in seconds.

I finally went to doctor last month since I was over the denial period. Sex with my wife (intercourse) does not last more than a minute, if that much.

Doctor, gave me Effexor. I took it for 15 days. First 7 days 35 mg, then 75 mg next week. It works wonders. I went on to have intercourse with my wife for 15-20 mins without coming out.

Then i told a friend (not a doctor, but well read). He has similar problem but not this bad, He researched the EFFEXOR on internet and told me some horrible stories about it, which I confirmed myself on internet.

I had side effects when I was taking Effexor, which doctor had told me. Going blank for few seconds and feeling drowsy and bad dreams. some trouble sleeping straight 8 hours (would wake up every few hours). But I thought it was normal and the effect was fading away after few days.

To make long story short, I am back to square one. Not having taken the medicine, I do not last much longer.

I don’t know what my problem is. Am I suffering from PE cause I had not had multiple sex partners (except few prostitutes in spas) till late age?

I am looking for some answers. If you can help, please feel free to write @ [Urology Channel moderator note: e-mail address has been removed]

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It was a few years ago but I remember it well. I can still see her look of disdain, disgust?, hear the car door slam and her car revving as she gunned the engine to get out of there as quick as she could.

I was helping out a friend in a club that drew a crowd of smoking hot chicks. Even the women that worked there were hot. Ever meet a woman who gave you such a vibe that you got aroused just standing near her? Well, that was the hostess, Kelly. Man, was I hot for her! And I could tell she was into me too. After the club closed we ended up back at my place. We didn’t even finish our drinks before I went from first base to home. We were naked, in bed and it happened. Again damn!!. Premature ejaculation. It was practically over before it even started -just 30 seconds. I tried to make apologies but it only made me feel more stupid and embarrassed. I was so frustrated, mad at myself, mad at my body.

To make matters worse, I was really afraid she would tell all the girls at work about it! The next night when I walked in it felt like every female eye in the joint was staring at me.

I was tormented. Why can’t I last longer and satisfy a woman in bed? Why can’t I prolong ejaculation, only naturally. See, I didn’t want to drink loads of alcohol to keep from coming too quick. What’s the fun in that? Anyway, what woman wants a slobbering drunk on top of her just because he can last longer? I didn’t want to take any drugs or fool around with creams and all that other stuff.

By now my confidence was totally shot. I started avoiding women, even those who seemed interested in me. Then I met Alice, we hit it off right away but I avoided making any moves, afraid “my problem” would once again ruin everything. I didn’t dare tell her anything. What would I say, that I had an ‘ejaculation control’ problem? Besides, I didn’t want anything to do anything that might screw up this relationship.
Then I found the cure. Thanks man- you saved me – great site

by jonesey on July 3, 2012 at 12:08 am. Reply #

my ejaculation is less then 2 minutes.PLS help me.

by md.khan on March 9, 2013 at 2:35 am. Reply #

According to Dr Helen Kaplan (the expert sex therapist): ”the key to learning how to stop premature ejaculation is learning penile sensory awareness.”
It is possible to cure premature ejaculation and last as long as you want without pills, condoms or thinking about something else.
Learn penile sensory awareness. This is possible with knowledge and practice. This is not hype.
Many men last as long as they want, you can too.
Take action. Learn how and practice.
Good luck Sam
PS – articles are written by a UK doctor and specialist in sex therapy.

by Sam on March 15, 2014 at 5:39 pm. Reply #

Please how can I be help this is my biggest problem I don’t know what to take I don’t last long and I trun down on ladies Cause I know starting it will make me look like I’m fooling my self

by Richard on November 6, 2019 at 1:57 pm. Reply #

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