What is premature ejaculation

What Is Premature Ejaculation?

So, what is premature ejaculation? And why there’s so much confusion, misunderstanding, and downright misinformation about it.

Let’s start at the beginning…

Premature ejaculation  is officially classified as a medical condition by various health organizations . But it’s not a disease or anything like that. And I think it’s deeply wrong to stigmatize it like that.

You should look at overcoming premature ejaculation as acquiring a new sexual skill, rather than curing some disease. Because that’s all there is to it. You just need to learn a new skill.

From evolutionary point of view, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. In fact your dick works better than the next guy’s. Because you can get the job done faster. And that’s what mother nature wanted… efficiency. (If you wanna know more about  “the survival of the fastest” theory read What Causes Premature Ejaculation?)

That being said, we don’t always do what mother nature wants us to do. We’re humans. That’s how we roll.

Sex is very pleasant. And naturally, we want to enjoy it for as long as we can.

So than,  what is premature ejaculation, and why it’s a problem?

Well, one thing is for sure…

There is no universally accepted definition of what premature ejaculation is. Not even among the doctors and health institutions.

The bottom line is that if you often ejaculate sooner than you want to, don’t have any control over it, and it’s stressing you out or you feel bad about it… you suffer from premature ejaculation.

But that still doesn’t tell us just how quickly is too quick, and how often is too often. Some experts tried to put a number on it, but that never really worked.

Before we go any further, here are some formal definitions of premature ejaculation. So that you don’t feel like you’re missing something out, or that I’m holding something back:

“Premature ejaculation is the inability to delay ejaculation long enough for the woman to achieve orgasm 50% of the time.” – Masters and Johnson

“Premature ejaculation is persistent or recurrent onset of orgasm and ejaculation with minimal sexual stimulation before, on, or shortly after penetration and before the person wishes it, that cause(s) marked distress or interpersonal difficulty.” – The American Psychiatric Association’s DSM-IV-TR

“Premature ejaculation is an inability to delay ejaculation sufficiently to enjoy lovemaking.” – The World Health Organization’s ICD-10

“If you last less than 1 minute you have a ‘definite’ premature ejaculation, and if you last less than 1.5 minutes you have ‘probable’ premature ejaculation.” – Dr Waldinger

To make things even more complicated, many other researchers have come up with their own definitions.

But, we can sort them all in two groups.

The ones that define premature ejaculation in terms of number of minutes or strokes you can “go” before you ejaculate.

And the ones that say the timing is relative and differs for each couple, and you have premature ejaculation if you can’t to last long enough for you and your partner to enjoy the sex.

It doesn’t matter even if you can keep going for 15 minutes.  If it takes 30 minutes for her to reach an orgasm, you still have PE.

And as if that’s not enough, premature ejaculation also has other names. It is also known as PE, rapid ejaculation, early ejaculation, and ejaculatio praecox (Latin term), among others.

As you can see there are many opinions on what premature ejaculation is. But only one really matters – YOURS! If you feel like you’re not lasting long enough in bed, or you simply want to last a bit longer, than you should do something about it. Whether you call it premature ejaculation or not.

Just make sure you also understand what’s NOT premature ejaculation …

If you only occasionally come quickly, it doesn’t mean you have PE.

If it doesn’t happen often enough to start bugging you or your partner, than  it’s not a problem.

Because most men occasionally reach an orgasm sooner than they’d like. And it’s quite common for all man to come quickly now and then. Especially in certain situations.

For example…

  • If it’s your first time
  • If you didn’t have sex for a long time
  • If it’s the first time with a new partner
  • If you’re just young and amped up

But that’s not premature ejaculation. Occasional loss of control doesn’t meant you have a sexual problem.

Sometimes you may even want to come fast. You may want an exciting “quickie”, and you’ll enjoy going straight for an orgasm.

That’s not PE either, that’s normal sex life.

And as long as you and your partner are happy with your sexual stamina, NO ONE can tell you that you have premature ejaculation. No matter how quick you are.

Also, you should know that there are two kinds of premature ejaculations.

  1. Primary premature ejaculation
  2. Secondary premature ejaculation

If you suffer from premature ejaculation your whole life, you have what’s known as ‘primary premature ejaculation’. This type of PE is also known as ‘lifelong premature ejaculation’.

Don’ worry about the “lifelong” thing. It doesn’t mean you’re stuck with PE for the rest of your life. It simply means that, up to this point in your life, you never had sex without coming too soon.

On the other hand…

If you previously had a normal ejaculatory control, and than at one point you began experiencing premature ejaculation – you have the secondary premature ejaculation.

This type of PE is also called the acquired or temporary premature ejaculation.

The difference between these two types of PE, besides the one stated above, is that they often have different causes. However, treatments are usually the same.

There you have it. Now if someone asks you “What is premature ejaculation?” –  you can talk about it for half an hour.

If you have any questions, post them in the comments below.

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